Deal Gently

“Now the king had commanded Joab, Abishai, and Ittai, saying, ‘Deal gently for my sake with the young man Absalom’.  And all the people heard when the king gave all the captains orders concerning Absalom.”  2 Samuel 18:5

But Absalom would not be dealt with gently.

Lord, please cover us when our wishes and expectations are not honored.  And here’s a simple poem . . .


How I love the gentle way
and when people respond
just the way I want them to
but that’s not what life is made of.

So when my expectations
are unmet and duly crushed
hide me in that place where You were
in a tomb, a grave, on a cross.


  1. Deb – I’m guessing your tender heart has too often felt the sting of unkind responses. Thank you for your gentle reminder of the many ways He shelters: a tomb, a grave, a cross. Not the traditional places like a rock or a wing, but the costly ones. Thank you.

  2. Your poem brought to mind Christ’s words:
    “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy”

    I am so thankful the Lord has given His children a safe place to hide from the harshness of life.

  3. Gracious Debbie, you are such a sensitive soul. Those weren’t traditional places for seeking shelter and this is a poem that kind of wrote itself there at the end. I’m not sure what to make of it myself, but the few times I thought about changing it, it somehow seemed right the way it was. God bless you for the gentle way you show His grace to us!

  4. I am thankful too, Heather, and for the gentleness that still is shown and can be seen. 🙂 God bless you and shine gently upon you today!

  5. This is so so good, sis Deb–thank you for the wonderful reminder. Instead of always beating myself up for my expectations–and trying not to have them–I should just turn to the Lord for “cover” when I get disappointed, hurt. Thank you for always turning us back to Him, rather than ourselves–you are our blessed Sister!!

  6. “…So when my expectations
    are unmet and duly crushed…”

    Good choice of words. Unmet expectations always result in hurt feelings which need the Healer’s touch.

  7. I find that I don’t have many expectations . . .and I don’t know if that is good or bad! I do want to expect great things from God because He is the do-er of great and marvelous things.
    God bless you and deal gently with you today!

  8. It’s so hard not to expect anything! Praying that He does cover you in tender ways and heal those hurts. He is the One we can trust to respond to us and meet our deepest needs and expectations. 🙂
    God bless you, sweet sis, and gently love on you today!

  9. I agree that those were a good choice of words. I’ve experienced quite a bit of this recently only because I held a plan for my children that was MY plan and not theirs. It’s a great learning.

  10. “hide me in that place where You were
    in a tomb, a grave, on a cross.”

    I have been hiding a lot lately.

    Thank you so much for this entire post.


  11. Tammy . . .that IS a really big place where we can have expectations, with our children. I was told once by the principal of the school where my youngest special needs daughter went for awhile, that we had to have expectations of the children. That is how they learn. I remember that, but still ponder it. Do they really learn because we expect them to? I know that they all were expecting a lot from Aubrey, and my question was what if our expectations of her were way off base. We expected her to go and sit in a chair and listen and do whatever she was told . . .without fully understanding what any of that was like for her.
    God bless you as you keep learning and keep expecting to too! 🙂

  12. Oh wonderful woman of the Word . . .I wish I could come and hide with you, just to be with you in that place. I know He is with you. God bless you and gently hold you and encourage you today!
    love and prayers!

  13. I read a great quote by Spurgeon this morning that reading your post and all the comments brings to mind – ‘When we cannot see the sunshine of God’s face, it is blessed to cower down beneath the shadow of His wings until these calamities be overpast. Evil will pass away, and the eternal wings will abide over us till then. Blessed be God, our calamities are matters of time, but our safety is a matter of eternity. Whne we are under the divine shadow, the passing over of troule cannot harm us. The hawk flies across the sky, but this is no evil to the chicks when they are safely nestling beneath the hen.’

    So praying that as you take shelter in Him, you would know and experience the blessing of being kept safe by Him until the time that you see the sunshine of His face again. Bless you Debbie xx

  14. Wow sweet Aimee . . .you read that this morning? That is wonderful. I liked . . “our safety is a matter of eternity.” 🙂 Thank you so much for your prayers. You are such a blessing! God bless you as you so gently and genuinely bless others. love and prayers!

  15. I loved that line too – keeps everything in perspective! Have a wonderful day x

  16. Jesus on the cross, the ultimate sacrifice. What we face in our daily struggles? Small in comparison, painful just the same. I appreciate your humility in every poem. Hugs… : )

  17. Lovely Linda, I love your realness so much and how you relate to people and whatever they are going through. It is a special gift you have. God bless you and yours, and deal gently with you as you do likewise for others! His mercy shows in you. love and prayers!

  18. My heart goes out to “moms”–they have such a responsibility to be “wise”. But think of the ones who don’t know the Source of Wisdom–surely God must be especially watchful, covering those little ones. I know He must send special angels to help you moms who know Him! Sending love and prayers–“e-hugs” to you, sisters! xxxooo

  19. He also sends people angels to help us too! Like you! 🙂 God bless you, sis Caddo Delight!

  20. Debbie it is true that people are sometimes unkind. Our natural instinct is to meet kind with kind and hit back, instead of smiling sweetly and taking refuge in the One who knows, understands and comforts. When we allow HIM to respond for us, we know true joy and the edge of the person’s unkindness loses its sting.
    What an amazing God!

  21. That true joy and allowing HIM to respond . . .that is precious! Yes, what an amazing God we have who does that for us!
    God bless you, mentor Angela, as you minister to us in blog land again! 🙂 So blessed to have you here!

  22. You are no doubt a God’s angel Debbie. He made me show up here today to show me where and when I should be hiding when I felt crushed. To bury my great expectations in the grave and remember His expectations on the cross 🙂

  23. Sweet Spoon . . .your comments tonight are bringing lots of tears. So powerful and pulling and deep. God bless you Big, Rea . . .Ray of His Son, shining bright. love and prayers!

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